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Lollipop Moments

How to Pack Lollipop Moments Into Travel

A Change Creator podcast with Drew Dudley caught my attention. He was talking about Lollipop Moments.

According to Drew a lollipop moment is a point in time when connecting with someone has mattered, does matter or will matter. More importantly, he believes in the power of engaging, acknowledging and appreciating those moments.

Lollipop Moments

Curious about what else Drew had to say, I searched for him on YouTube. And there he was. Talking more about Lollipop Moments.

In “Recognizing the Power of Lollipop Moments,” Drew talks about how many people rely on leadership to change the world. Drew believes there is no world but rather there are 7 billion understandings of it. He suggests change comes when a person’s understanding of the world changes. A change brought about by Lollipop Moments. Moments when an individual realizes others care; moments when an individual’s capabilities are recognized; moments when an individual’s power to be an agent of change in the world or in their own life are celebrated.

Some Sweet Examples

Eureka! Global illustrations of Drew’s ‘simple but not small idea’ began dancing in my head. A fortunate traveler, my sojourns have taken me to many parts of the world. Along the way, I have met many incredible women and girls.

Catalina. One of my earliest encounters involved Catalina, a World Vision sponsor child. She and I met years ago while I was in Guatemala. She was about 8 years old at the time. Excited to demonstrate our family’s affection for Catalina, I brought several presents to share with her. Grateful, she smiled and shyly uttered “Gracias.” She then leaned over and said something in her mother’s ear. As her volume was beyond a whisper, I asked the translator to share what Catalina said.

“She was hoping her madrina (godmother) would bring a bike.”

Ouch! A disappointed child and someone who had the power to change that! Looking back, I realize this was a Lollipop Moment. An opportunity for me to let Catalina know her wishes mattered. An opportunity for me to make a dream come true. The potential to change someone’s world. The potential for that change to create yet to be discovered ripples of change.

Epifania.  More recently I met a young woman in Peru.  She was attending a leadership training event to which I had been invited.  Throughout the morning, I found myself captivated by her radiant smile.  During one of the breaks, I approached her and complimented that beautiful smile. 

A couple of years later, I had the opportunity to meet Epifania again. At that time, she told me my compliment provided her the motivation she needed.  

“You gave me the certainty when you told me something nice and you also smiled with me.”

She went on to say, “I had a little problem inside. That day I wanted to cry.  But you gave me security and I could smile more and forget the problem.”

That exchange was over six years ago.  Thanks to social media, Epifania and I remain in touch.  We share a Lollipop Moment, one created and one appreciated

Travel + Sisterhood + Lollipop Moments = Power for Change

Several years have passed since the inauguration of Ripple Effect Journeys. The principle of “Leading with Lollipop Moments” adds greater depth to this travel vision.

The world offers so many amazing destinations.  New discoveries await us at each stop.  Historical perspectives along with contemporary insights provide texture to what our eyes can see. Art, culture, architecture, and food illustrate what’s valued in the places we visit. And of course, the people we meet enrich our experiences.  (More about this later.)

Good travel does not occur in isolation. Solo travel has become increasingly popular. But most solo travelers will tell you they are not alone. Along the way paths cross and connections are made.

The opposite of solo travel is group travel. In my experience, a group has the potential to become a community. And when this happens, when you move from group travel to community travel, magic happens! A community has something (or in some cases a multitude of things) in common.

Sisterhoods are powerful communities.   So much so they deserve their own blog post! (Or, more accurately their own Ripple Effect Journeys blog post.)  Sisterhoods bring the following words to mind.

Fun! Support. Feedback. Accountability. Fun!

Fun! Inspiration. Motivation. Transformation! Fun!

Imagine when a sisterhood of travelers meets a sisterhood of women or girls striving to improve their lives. The possibilities for learning, understanding, and empowerment are endless!

Traveling Lollipop Moments change lives. Spontaneous interactions with local people are memorable. Waiting for these to happen, leaves something to chance. Intentional authentic exchanges are possible. But, facilitating these is challenging.

Enter the concept of traveling with impact. What if intentional authentic exchanges were facilitated between female travelers and women / girls associated with non-profit organizations focused on empowerment? And what if Lollipop Moments were involved? Moments when an individual realizes others care.  Moments when an individual’s capabilities are recognized.  Moments when an individual’s power to be an agent of change in the world or in their own life are celebrated.

A power for change!

‘A Simple But Not A Small One’

Drew Dudley’s recent “Recognizing the Power of Lollipop Moments” recognizes Lollipop Moments are a simple idea. But they are not small ones. 

So true.

It’s not small when our actions embrace, encourage, and empower others. Travel, like Ripple Effect Journeys – Vietnam, provides a platform to do so. Join a community of women and become a powerful source for change.

3 Aha Moments Define Travel that Serves

My mother often remarked that good things come in threes. That certainly seems to be the case when it comes to how I’ve interconnected three aha moments with how I envision travel that serves.

Aha Moment #1

It began with watching Lume Mufleh’s powerful TED Talk “Don’t feel sorry for refugees-Believe in them.” Lume’s grandmother, who fled Syria for Jordan as a young mother, was determined to help her grandchildren understand their family’s history. When Lume was 8 years old, her grandmother took her to visit a refugee camp, similar to the one Grandmother had lived in with her small children. Upon arrival, Grandmother told Lume to go play with the children. Lume shares how she did not want to play with children who seemed so different from her. But Grandmother insisted. Later, while leaving the camp, Lume told Grandmother how much fun she had playing with the kids. “Those poor kids,” said Lume. Grandmother’s response is one that continues to impact Lume’s actions today. “Don’t feel sorry for them – believe in them.”

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Aha Moment #2

Believing in someone is at the heart of a relationship I embarked upon about a year ago. At that time, a coalition of leaders came together with the goal of a poverty-free life for everyone in the community where I live. Designed to empower people in poverty with skills, resources and personal connections, a mentorship program was one of the strategies suggested to work toward this goal. Interested in giving back, I volunteered to serve as a mentor.

Connecting through mentoring

Two months ago, I met my neighbor, the person I would mentor, for the first time. A single mother of 2 girls (ages 10 years and 3 months at the time), my neighbor is in her mid-thirties. She works full time as a caregiver and human resources assistant in an assisted living center located about 15 miles from home. Despite full time employment, she lives from paycheck to paycheck with no reserves for unexpected expenses.

The connection with my neighbor is teaching me so much.

When we met for the first time, my neighbor was upbeat about so many things. She loved her job, feeling valued and challenged.  She owned a car, enabling her to work at the assisted living center as local public transportation was not available. A strong network of friends helped care for her kids. Her spiritual life was strong and provided a source of strength when things became uncertain. An outgoing individual, our conversation continued for more than an hour. I found myself wondering why someone felt she needed a mentor.

We met a week later, as planned. Things were no longer going so well. My neighbor felt the initiative she demonstrated at work was not being appreciated by her boss.  Childcare was getting harder to arrange. Fall-out with a longtime friend struck a blow to her self-esteem. The refrigerator was nearly empty and diapers were running short. Within a week’s time, her world had become chaotic.

My neighbor has shared a variety of ups and downs with me since our first meeting. Because of her, poverty is no longer an abstract term to me. Rather, it’s something that impacts someone I’ve come to care about. Witnessing my neighbor’s approach to life, I often find myself in awe.

Here are a few of my takeaways.

The importance of being seen in a positive light

My neighbor was invited to participate in this program. Local social service representatives, familiar with her over time, felt she could benefit from a mentor’s support. The difference in tone between our first and second meeting reminds me that people want to be thought of in a positive light despite the challenges they face.

Being seen in a positive light

The importance of listening

A story unfolds over time. This is especially true when someone is sharing their life story. As a mentor, I’ve realized the importance of listening to someone without feeling the need to fix the problems they face.  My role is to build a trusting relationship that supports someone taking charge of their own life.

The importance of listening

Resilience and the importance of believing in someone

My neighbor has repeatedly shown me her resiliency. I am in awe of her ability to bounce back from both emotional and financial challenges. She strives to improve her life despite frequent setbacks. She is not asking me to solve her problems. Rather, she expresses gratitude in my belief in her ability to live her life.

The importance of believing in someone

Aha Moment #3

I recently came across a quote by Karen Blixen that connected things for me.

“We must leave our mark on life while we have it in our power.”

For several years, I’ve been exploring how to combine the wonder of travel with the desire to serve people in need. I envisioned a trip that serves rather than a service trip. But what did that exactly mean and why should people be interested in opportunity such as this?

Travel that serves

Connecting My Three Aha Moments Provides the Answer

I believe that many of us desire to follow Karen Blixen’s direction and “leave our mark on life.” Most of us are already doing so within our families, social groups and communities. But what could we do if we thought outside of communities familiar or close to us? How could those of us who explore life through travel integrate the desire to leave our mark?

Mission or service trips have long offered travelers a way of doing so. But the focus for my vision has been different. Lume Mufleh’s grandmother has given me the words to articulate the mission of travel that serves. “Don’t feel sorry for them. Believe in them!” Our hearts break when we see people living on the edge. This is especially true when we travel beyond our own country. We want to help. How can we solve the problems that are in front of us? There must be something we can do to improve the lives of those we see.

connecting 3 aha moments with travel that serves

There is! Lessons learned in my aha moments provide a starting place.

  • Remember the importance of an individual’s dignity. Travel that serves means taking direction not giving direction. Challenges are shared only after trust is established.
  • Listening serves as a building block for trust. Travel that serves means listening to an individual define their challenges. Once challenges are defined, solutions can be explored.
  • Travel that serves means aligning with someone as they examine their challenges. It is discussing possible solutions rather than providing the answers. Travel that serves believes in people, it doesn’t feel sorry for them.

Travel that serves – what an incredible way to leave your mark on life!

Leave your mark on the world

10 Ways to Refocus a Service Trip to a Journey That Serves

10 Ways to Refocus a Service Trip to a Journey that Servecs

I See and You Can Too!

Jotting down words while pondering my vision for Ripple Effect Journeys, I experienced an epiphany! Removing the letters “i” and “c” from service, results in the word serve. This “IC” (as in I see) moment led me to think about the many definitions of the word “see.” Do the varied meanings of this word impact what it means to serve as opposed to provide service? I think so!

Here are 10 ways “IC” (I see) refocuses a service trip to a Journey that Serves.

1.  To see – To visualize

Thinking about traveling beyond the sights, you begin to think about problems that needs fixing. Because you care, you begin to visualize how your actions could be part of the solution.

A journeys that serves means gathering impressions

2.  To see – To perceive by sight

Being able to see something with your own eyes, enables you to gather information and impressions. The adage “One picture is worth a thousand words” comes to mind. Reading about a situation and experiencing it are two different things. What are your eyes teaching you?

3.  To see – To call upon &
4.  To see – To grant an interview

Journeys that serve are about partnership. As travelers, we often ”feel called upon” to make life better for those we perceive are suffering in the places we visit. But wait. Before developing an action plan for change, don’t we need to be invited in by those we wish to serve, so that we can listen to one another, ask and answer questions?

A journey that service means partnership and discovery.

5.  To see – To watch, to examine &
6.  To see – To discover

If the goal is long term sustainable change, it’s important to discover the complexities that contribute to a situation. Discovery involves going beyond what the eye can see. It involves watching without judgement. It involves not only gathering information but also examining it through someone else’s eyes. Discovery often challenges what we have envisioned. Most importantly it requires a conversation focused on learning.

7.  To see – To understand

Our “IC” journey approaches a place where we begin to grasp the complexities of what we see before our eyes. The tendency to refer to this as a light bulb moment is strong. Because of what we’ve learned, our arrival at a place of understanding comes from empathy.  Our words “I understand” are spoken with a full heart.

A journey that serves means understanding and recognition

8.  To see – To recognize

The words recognize and acknowledge are often used as synonyms. A closer look reveals a slight but important difference. When we recognize someone or something, the act typically takes place quietly. But acknowledging someone or something requires an audience. Inspired by their growing understanding, travelers learning to serve are keen to both recognize and acknowledge, and in doing so help others to understand the power of serving.

9.  To See – To imagine the possibility

Traveling to serve nurtures an empathetic spirit. The importance of this can’t be overstated. Empathy enables us to recognize that we are the visitors, serving in a supportive role. Empathy allows us to accept if our help is rejected. Empathy humbles us to accept an invitation to collaborate rather than solve. And empathy honors us with requests to serve as mentors rather than doers. Understanding empathy helps us see the possibilities for serving may take many forms.

Journey that services means possibility

10.  To See – To take care of, to provide

Whoa! This “IC” may seem contradictory. At first glance, this reaction is understandable. But nothing could be further from the truth. When learning to serve, travelers grow to understand this. As educators, champions, advocates and mentors, we serve others through acts of empowerment. Our journey towards that goal does not end once we are home. Rather, our experiences ignite a passion to champion continued steps towards change.

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